March 29, 2014
Would you like my seat?
How far along are you my dear?
You are simply blooming!!
When is it due?
These are simply THE worst comments a FAT woman can hear when she’s not actually pregnant.
And I can’t count the number of times it’s been said to me over the years, and every time it hurts just as much as the last.
On Tuesday for example I was buying some bread in Percy Ingles when the shop assistant said
“You are absolutely blooming, pregnancy really suits you”
I was so taken aback I just smiled, grabbed my sliced loaf (low Gi I must add) and headed for the door.
Red faced and embarrassed I walked home very much deflated and thinking about what I should have said in response?
It happened once before when topping up my Oyster card at the tube station and I literally spat back “I’m not pregnant I’m just FAT” leaving the poor ticket attendant mortified and me feeling displicable all day.
So what should we do in this situation?
Should we apologise, get cross, simply set the record straight? I mean on the whole these people are normally quite well meaning.
However, once I was part of a delegation who went to Melbourne to lobby for a large event to come to the UK. A few months later the team met up for dinner to celebrate the fact we had won the bidding process. One of the key members of the team was missing and a friend mentioned that while out in Australia he had said to her “your friend Julie is obviously pregnant, is it common knowledge”
Well I wasn’t pregnant…and he was just an arse, but it makes me think, do people constantly look at me and think “I wonder if?”
I wrote a blog post last summer about using pregnancy as a way of jumping queues and the like, so maybe I shouldn’t complain. But it seems like this problem is not gonna go away any time soon, no matter how much weight I lose.
Does this happen to anyone else?